Triggered by Mom Even as an Adult: 3 Ways Your Body Talks Back

As a fairfly accomplished adult, why is it that you continue to feel like a voiceless child in the presence of your mother whether in flesh or in your dreams?

It is said that the sense of touch is the first of the five senses to become functional in an embryo. The amniotic fluid around the embryo serves as a cradle between the mother and the child. Per the writing of Juhan, author of Job's Body, he states:

Skin and brain develop from exactly the same primitive cells. Depending upon how you look at it, the skin is the outer surface of the brain, or the brain is the deepest layer of the skin, Surface and innermost core spring from the same mother tissue and throughout the life of the organism, they function as a single unit )p.35)

In this youtube video, Why Am I Still Affected by Mom Even as an Adult, I share 3 reasons how your nervous system stores the memory of being unmothered by your own mother. This is not an exhaustible list but the most commonly observed and/or reported.

If you live near Fairfield, Vacaville, Suisun, Napa and surrounding counties and interested in healing your nervous system in a deeply subconscious level, you can book a free consult with Roanne here.

Transcript of the video below-

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You're asking whether why am I still affected by my relationship with my mom even as an adult.

There are probably so many different reasons, but in this video, I'm gonna share three.

if you don't know me, I'm Roanne de Guia-Samuels

I'm a licensed somatic psychotherapist and a spinal flow practitioner.

Is this you?

Your mom's comments even if you're an adult and you're thinking, yeah. It doesn't bother me anymore.

But when she says something, it feels like it punctures your soul.

Never mind that, you know, a 100 people told you otherwise, but just that one statement from your mom feels like, ouch, is that you?

maybe you're preparing to see your mom, maybe in a potluck.

So you're really trying to prepare your your body.

You're meditating before meeting with her, but you really are easily triggered by just even her movement, maybe perhaps the way she looks at you.

the trigger is like a plague in your body.

is this also you?

You might be good and even rigid with setting boundaries with other people, But it's such a fail when it comes to your mom.

when she starts stalking, it's almost like you could not find your voice.

This is this something that happens to you, or you've tried to curate your relationships.

You know, in a Cornell study, it was sharing that, one third of, Americans are estranged with their family.

I also heard that there are about 1,000,000,000 in TikTok, like the hashtag hashtag toxic family.

So you feel that, but you you feel that you've created, like, you are no contact with mom.

And then, yeah, these things about your fear of being abandoned, things that may have come from your relationship with your mom.

Even if you're no longer in relationship with her, still keep showing up in your personal relationships, even at work.

Is this you? I will share with you. And I'm sharing this.

I am not in either way as far as, like, you should not have no contact.

To me, when I hear that, I hear I I feel saddened by that.

But at the same time, I honor that at this point, that may be that may be you.

I'm not sure if that's the best route.

I am not also wanting somebody to subject themselves from abuse, so you are in a position to choose.

I am sharing from a place of opening our hearts together.

So one reason why this is, something that really still affects you, the the triggers like a plague.

First of all, logic, just thinking that I'm no longer being affected by mom doesn't work rarely works, when it comes to this.

if you tell yourself just do this experiment. Right?

don't be afraid that somebody is going to abandon you. Like, if you're in a relation he's okay.

He's not gonna do anything. Does that work?

So I just want you to be curious about that to ask yourself.

Or, you keep telling yourself you're safe. Okay. I'm safe in this place.

I'm safe in this relationship. But your body's telling you something else. You have sweaty palms.

Your heart is racing. You have stomach issues. It's hard for you to sleep.

So your body's telling you something else. Your body's always communicating.

Now if it's just logic, when you think about logic, thoughts, right, then don't you think you would have thought your way out of your situation?

But for most piece people, especially when the wounding is from a deep, deep, very intimate relationship as far a deep, deeper relationship, I should say, like that of a mother and a child, those things can stay with you.

It's, you know, like, when you're just talking about thoughts, I always tell clients that it's like pulling weeds.

Right? You pull it, and then the next day, it looks fine. Then the next day, it's there again.

K? If it's just merely thoughts, they're like weeds.

You pull it and then they're there again because it's not from the roots or you're not really understanding it from a very deep subconscious healing.

So that's one. It's not just logic.

Number two is that your attachment blueprint, if you don't know attachment, it's just that the way you view the world, is it a safe place or not?

Your connection with your mother at this time that we're talking about mothers, but also caregivers, that doesn't expire, the blueprint, the map.

if you have a faulty blueprint that can follow you, unless you do your own self healing journey, Or otherwise so there's always hope.

There's always a chance. Otherwise, most people, even if, like, I'm never gonna be like my mom, then they start becoming like their mom.

my gosh. I sound like my mom. Or people rarely talk about this. They become the opposite.

If your parent is so, so, so strict and now you become very, very permissive, the question is, what are you running away from?

K? Is that from, a place of fear rather than a place of joy?

Why you have become extremely permissive? Only you can answer them. So that's the second part.

The attachment blueprint does not expire. later on, I'll tell you a little secret.

But the third one is that, how the nervous system when we talk about the nervous system, this is the the nervous system is like a buzzword, but it's literally the brain and your spine until your the edge here, the cosex.

Okay? When you, your your connection with your mom, that relationship is in the body.

When you feel shame, unsafe, we naturally tucked in our cosec.

So, you know, you've seen people are like, you know, it's a fight and and, flight response.

Or now we also have fawning, but we're just gonna focus on fight and flight response.

When you have been in the world in that way and and, you know, all of us have felt some type of embarrassment.

If it's just one time on rare occasion, maybe it would not change even the structure of your body.

But if you're tucked almost all the time by repetition, it changes also the structure and the energy, the life force that is passing through literally your nervous system.

And this is what I love doing in my practice beyond a psychotherapist of just talking about things because we know that thoughts and talk therapy isn't enough.

Literally, I work with the nervous system to allow the cerebral spinal fluid, the fluid that's coming from the brain.

It should be moving up and down like a river. That's your life force.

You can call it life force energy. I like to call it the cerebral spinal fluid.

That gets stuck along the way if you've been in a position where you can't move it.

It's like a river with, a pebble, and it's just not running smoothly. Okay?

So that's what I love to do in my practice.

And if you're interested, you can always book a consult in the link below. That's the third one.

So let me just do a review. The first one is that, it thoughts are not enough. Okay?

It's not just logic. Second, your attachment blueprint does not expire.

And the third is that your nervous system stores relational patterns. Now the secret, my friend, is this.

Although that, although your nervous system blueprint does not expire, the good news is is you can rediscover a better one because your nervous system is conspiring for your wellness and your health.

K? All you need to do is to be curious about it and to take action.

If you're interested in this type of therapy, go ahead and, click the book consult in the below, and I will be happy to support you.

Again, this is Roanne de guia-Samuels. I hope this has been helpful to you.