On-line & In-Office in Fairfield, Vacaville, Solano County, California
This isn’t about choosing between your partner and your Filipino culture. It’s about building a relationship where both can thrive.
So if you’ve been crossing your fingers things work out but quietly fearing they won’t...
Let’s stop crossing fingers and start building tools.
You’re a Filipina woman in a relationship with someone from a different background—White, Black, Latino, European—and lately it feels like you’re speaking two different emotional languages.
Maybe you were drawn to each other because you came from different worlds. But now…
You find yourself stuck explaining (again) why you can’t just “say no” to your mom's requests or why she keeps showing up at your house even without a key.
Or why your silence when you're hurt isn’t about shutting down, it’s “tampo”—it runs in the family…avoiding conflict to keep the peace.
Maybe your partner doesn’t get why his jokes about your family land like a punch, despite the fact, you ‘ve complained to him how you leave family potlucks feeling like you were knocked-out.
You love your partner. But the communication is fraying.
The boundaries with your family feel like battlegrounds.
The values clash is becoming louder than the love.
It’s not your fault. Not his either.
You’re navigating something that most therapists don’t talk about—a relationship where culture, communication, and family all collide.
And that’s where I come in.
As a Filipina psychotherapist who works with women and couples just like you, I know what it’s like to feel torn between “honor thy family” and “protect your peace.” I help you translate your experience in a way your partner can actually understand—not just hear, but feel.
Communication feels off. You express your feelings the way you were raised—subtly, with hints, maybe a little tampo, strategy to keep the peace by avoiding the conflict. Sadly, it has intensified the conflict in your relationship.
Family guilt is real. You want to set boundaries with your parents or siblings, but the utang na loob is heavy. Your partner doesn’t get why you can’t “just say no,” or feel immensely guilty when you do.
They don’t understand the pressure. They think you’re too close to your family. You feel like you’re always choosing between being a good daughter and a good partner.
You’re tired of explaining. Your culture, your food, your language, your values—sometimes you just want to be, not constantly translate.
They love you, but not your culture. Or maybe they try, but it still feels like they don’t fully see you.
Decoding your emotional language—so you can speak your truth, even if you were raised to keep the peace.
Helping your partner understand your family, your values, and why saying “no” isn’t always simple.
Rewriting inherited stories about guilt, loyalty, and love.
Setting boundaries that don’t make you feel like a bad daughter or a bad wife.
Strengthening your relationship so that it’s not “you vs. them”—it’s you two vs. the problem.
$925
For Couples Thinking of Marriage
3 Premarital Session@ 90 minutes each
Culture Match: Find out What Might Be the Most Challenging Adjustment in Your Relationship.
Find Out: Your Love Style & Your Partner’s (how you preferred to be loved).
Learn To Meet Your Partner’s Deepest Longing & Desire.
Learn How to Self-Soothe & Soothe Your Partner.
Gift Card Available for gifting. Must be use within one year of purchase.
$225 per session
Married or Not
Sessions @ 80 minutes each
Minimum Commitment is 8 sessions
Finally communicate in a language that you both understand.
Appreciating culture as a gift with its nuances while honoring each other’s personalities.
Finding a healthy balance between family expectation with personal desires & longing.
I’m Roanne. I'm so glad you stopped by!
Our work together will be an adventure of your lifetime. You will learn about yourself beyond the limiting beliefs you’ve unconsciously subscribed to without being in therapy forever.
We will tackle issues with depth & lightheartedness. I am playfully direct because who said the healing journey has to be sooooo serious. But you’re transformation will seriously change your life to the one you’ve only imagined. You will become the reality of your dreams.
I’m an immigrant mom of 4 in an interracial relationship. I was born and raised in the Philippines but have lived in the U.S. for almost 25 years. I’ve navigated both cultures beautifully but have lived experience on the difficulty of bridging both.
If you’re overwhelmed & have tried to make things work on your own but still stressed out, Couple Coaching can help you.
If you're contemplating entering into marriage where difference of culture can be endearing in the beginning but you want to learn how to navigate differences that can result to tension in your relationship before they occur, Couples Coaching is for you.
I serve heterosexual couples and everything between the colors of the rainbow.
On an average, couples spend 20 sessions with a therapist/coach. I wouldn't want to take your money if you can't commit to 8 sessions because you won't see the benefits of Couples Coaching.
Couples in my care get the most benefit from Couples Coaching from 12-16 sessions but at a minimum 8 sessions give each partner substantial insight of each other and the relationship.
*Ofcourse, this can vary & additional sessions can be scheduled as needed.
The option for virtual is available and if you live near Solano County: Fairfield, Vacaville, Vallejo, Napa, Benicia, or willing to travel, I can meet you in my studio office.
Considering your openness & willingness to practice what you've learned in our sessions, couples report an average of 12-16 sessions.
At times, individual session is offered if one partner is stuck which is influencing the movement of our couples coaching.
*Everyone's situation is different & some things may need more time in therapy.
I will email you an invoice depending on the fee schedule we agreed on. I use square which accepts all major credit cards including Health Savings Account (HSA).
You need to cancel 24 hours before our appointment time. If you cancel in 24 hours or less (23rd hour), you will be charged $30 for late cancellation fee and $100 for no show.